Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Dr. Amy's Strategies to Get Promoted in Corporate America

Have you ever wondered how you can get a leg up on the competition when it comes to getting promoted on your job?  Well let me tell you, if you want to get promoted in Corporate America today, you must develop a plan of action and take the time to learn the process and the strategies to get you to the top.

To get the edge over the competition today, employees are left with no choice but to add value to their qualifications with important skills that exhibit their true potential.  What we are seeing in the workforce today is an overall development and expansion of the individual employee.  Today, you have to be able to “show” and “tell” what you can do in order to stand out from the crowd.  In the past these all important advance skills or what we call “soft skills” were acquired over a lifetime through trial & error.  However, in the workforce today, we are seeing a major shift in what is considered the norm.  Today, many well-informed and “progressive-minded” people are taking charge of their own careers and taking the smart step up the corporate ladder by mastering their soft skills or “people skills” – through training seminars, conferences, and one-on-one coaching engagements conducted by companies like mine.  They are utilizing new strategies to position themselves to rapidly move up the corporate ladder when the opportunity presents itself.   Can you believe people are actually strategically planning their promotions and moves up the corporate ladder well in advance?        
Documented studies conducted by Harvard University and Stanford Research Institute, report that technical skills & knowledge contribute to only 15% of an individual’s success; while soft skills make up the remaining 85%. Isn’t that amazing?  This evidence has supported the human resources stand of “people” skills, being the first point of impact when two individuals meet. 
So what I am saying here is that you can actually get ahead in your company by developing your soft skills or “people skills.” Soft skills are defined as:  personal attributes that enhances an individual’s relationships, job performance, and future career projections.  These are competencies such as:      
·        Effective Communication Skills & Active Listening,
·        Self-Management & Emotional Intelligence;
·        Team Building & Conflict Resolution;
·        Becoming Politically Savvy; and
·        Exercising Leadership - just to name a few

Unlike hard skills or “technical skills,” which tend to be specific to a certain type of job or task, soft skills are what will get you promoted and noticed.  To learn these skills, you may need to change your mindset just a bit, and I recognize that any type of change can be a challenge.  But if you want to move up on the corporate ladder, then you must be willing to do it! Because if you are one of those people who still believe that the “senior” person or the most “talented” person is the one getting promoted within companies today, then it’s time to give you a wake-up call.  (Come in and listen up ... here's some free advice:  you are probably NOT the person getting selected for the high-level promotions within your organization because you do not stand out from the bunch with a helping attitude; your communication skills are probably not strong, and/or you are not known by upper management.  Moreover, you are probably still under the unrealistic expectation that you should get promoted because you are the most senior person in the department. Well, let me tell you, it is not reality!  Being competent at your job is only a small factor in the promotability equation; remember everyone else is probably just as knowledgeable as you.   Accordingly, you must find a way to stand out from the crowd and add value to your department and the organization.
As I evaluate my client organizations and look around to see who actually gets promoted within organizations, I have noticed that it is not always the smartest person.  Rather, it is often the person who is best known and most LIKED within the organization.  Yes, you heard it right, the people getting the big time promotions today are the ones willing to play the promotional “political” game.  Here’s the secret:  To successfully win at the promotions game, you must first learn how the game is played and what techniques & strategies it takes to win. Your challenge along the way will be to:
     §    Adopt a new success mindset about the process;
§    Refine your strategic moves and soft skills along the way; and
§    Have someone else- within the organization- to be a champion for you. 

Remember, in today’s work environment, it is not just what you know, it is,   “ What you know - combined with WHO knows you!!!” Yes, believe it or not, in order to climb the corporate ladder and actually GET PROMOTED.….. “several” people must know you & the quality of your work.  You must find people who can actively champion your work – and this is how people are being recognized and promoted within organizations today.  They find managers and leaders who can promote them and get the word out about their skills, abilities, and can-do attitudes. In view of this, you have to learn how to aggressively network your way through your organization to get the attention of key decision-makers and upper management! 

Here are my top ten recommendations to get promoted in your career :
(1)     Start with a change in mindset
a.     First, recognize and accept that you will need to make a few changes in your mindset, behavior, and actions
b.    Develop strong soft skills-i.e, communication skills, emotional intelligence skills, and active listening skills.
c.     Become a master at conflict resolution and helping to solve other people’s problems

(2)     Determine where you want to be on the corporate ladder, and then develop a specific plan to help you to get there!

(3)    Focus on your personal development & growth: 
a.  Have a formal 360-degree assessment review to get feedback from your boss, your peers, your customers, and friends on your strengths and areas that you may need to improve in and/or work on.    
b.  Develop the attitude & attributes that upper management looks for in their top talented employees. 
·  Become big picture focused;
·  Think corporate culture;
·  Think team instead of “I;”  
·  Be able to think on your feet;

(4)     Become politically savvy.  Start acting the part and dressing like the person you want to become.

(5)    Be willing to take on more responsibility and excel at customer relationships and customer service

(6)     Have someone within the organization to be your champion

(7)     Find out what people in the position(s) you desire DID to get to where they are.
a.     What training classes did they take?
b.    What types of stretch assignments did they volunteer for?
c.     What positions did they have prior to prepare them for the seat they are sitting in now?
d.  Who did they use as a mentor or coach?
  
(8)    Volunteer to do “STRETCH ASSIGNMENT” or to work on other projects within your organization so you can work with people from different departments.  This is vitally important because you want to allow as many people as possible to get to know who you are and what level of work you are capable of.

(9)     Encourage & Motivate Yourself.  Learn how to sell or ‘promote’ yourself in any given situation, while maintaining a high level of personal integrity at the same time. Keep this in mind:  Motivation is the fuel you’ll use to power yourself up the corporate ladder. You’ll also need to know how to communicate your ideas in crisp, concise terms along the way.

(10)   Hire a success coach or executive coach to help you map out your success plan and get you trained up and developed for the next big promotion at your organization. 

I look forward to hearing about your successes on your job and in your business.

Your success coach,

Dr. Amy
Psychologist | Personal Development Expert | International Trainer

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Monday, January 17, 2011

In Honor of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Birthday

I am so grateful to Dr. King and all those whose shoulders I stand on today to be where I am in life.   

To all of those involved in the civil rights movement, I say thank you for fighting for my civil rights, which has allowed me to get to the place where I can live out my dreams.  Every day I am thoughtful of the suffering that so many people endured just to allow me – a little black girl from John’s Island, South Carolina to live the big life that I currently have.  I am appreciative every day for the opportunities that I currently have in my life and vow never to take any of the liberties lightly.  I will be forever indebted to those who fought for my personal and social rights and endured so much pain, prejudice, and inequalities just to afford me the chances and possibilities that I have in my life today.

Thank you for the freedoms that I currently have.  I am so grateful that today, I too, have the opportunity to live the American dream!  Because of this, I made a promise to myself a few decades ago that I would never allow the struggles and lives lost in the fight for my civil rights go in vain.  I made a commitment to myself and to my parents a long time ago that I would take advantage of all the opportunities available to me. 

So when I think back to the struggles and obstacles I had to overcome to get to where I am in life today, I can keep in mind that it will never be comparable to the hardships and struggles made for us by the men and women who sacrificed their lives to afford us a seat at the table. Accordingly, in his 1968 essay entitled "A Testament of Hope," Dr. King wrote, “People are often surprised to learn that I am an optimist.  They know how often I have been jailed, how frequently the days and nights have been filled with frustration and sorrow, how bitter and dangerous are my adversaries.  They expect these experiences to harden me into a grim and desperate man.  They fail, however, to perceive the sense of affirmation generated by the challenge of embracing struggle and surmounting obstacles.” 

In the words of Dr. King, “We must never lose infinite hope”  Know that you can still fulfill your greatness by overcoming your personal obstacles!  It’s time to awaken the Dr. King spirit in all of us!  Let’s serve others and help as many people in our daily path to make positive changes in their lives and pursue their individual life dreams.  Are you with me?

Your Success Coach,

Dr. Amy Hymes, PhD
Psychologist | Author | Business Owner | Speaker & Trainer

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

When Dealing with Negative Spouses and Family Members

…… you have to find a way to gently lead them to information on how to shift their thinking and upgrade their mindset.

When we have negative people who are very close to us in our lives it can sometimes feel like sleeping with the enemy.  Sometimes it can seem like everything that we do to take one step forward in life, that person will find a way to smash the positive idea and highlight the negatives - thus pushing us two steps back.  So in order to maintain your sanity, you have to find a way to gently lead that person to new information, while at the same time not allowing yourself to get caught up in their negative emotional state. You have to boldly state to them "I am attempting to make positive strides in my life and would prefer to focus on the positive aspects  of the situation."  Let them know that you would prefer that the two of you grow together; however, you are willing to take the lead on this journey until they are willing to join you - keeping in mind that we cannot change another human being.  The desire to change must come from that individual.      

Dealing with negative people in general can be annoying; but managing negative spouses and family members does have a way of sucking the life out of you and hurting you to the core if you don't find a way to effectively deal with it.  Accordingly, you must always be willing and prepared to handle them with white gloves.  

Five Strategies to Deal with your Negative Spouse and/or Family Members:

1)  First and foremost, rather than trying to change the person, instead focus on uplifting and upgrading yourself and your knowledge.  You should remind the person that you love them; however, you would prefer to see more of the optimistic side of their personality.  After stating that, then share with them that you are not up to the battle for a disagreement, sarcastic comments, or anything that is unsubstantiated or opposing  to what you are about.  Instead, invite them to give or share their opinions only AFTER they have taken the time to research or study the subject and are able to have an intelligent conversation about the issue.   2)  Second, do not follow them up!  Let them know that you REFUSE to go down the negative road with them.  Announce that from this moment forward, you will be doing one of three things when they start down the negative path.  
            a.   You will remind (or warn) them once that you are receiving or hearing the 
                  information they are sharing as "negative" and allow them an opportunity to stop 
                  or change the behavior. 
            b.   If they do not cease with the negativity, you will politely gather your
                  belonging and leave the room to retreat to somewere by yourself.
            c.   If via telephone, inform them that you will be ending the conversation
                  immediately, and then hang up.

3) Third, learn to strengthen and encourage yourself.  Oftentimes we get extremely hurt by the negative things that our love ones say and do to us because we somehow gave away our  power to them and got to a point where we rely on them to encourage us. So what you need to do is to learn how to encourage yourself!  Find motivated positive minded people who can support you in your plans.  Surround yourself with people who are doing positive things.  Get to a place of strong emotional intelligence where that loved one words can no longer hurt you. Get tough skin so you can continue to push their negative energy out of your space. 

4)  Fourth, continue to show respect for the person - through their negativity- while demanding it for yourself.  Do not make fun of them, rather, focus on finding a way to stay upbeat and positve through their negativity.   

5)  Fifth, sit down and ask them HOW you can help them to get through this temporary phase.  You want to pose this behavior as a "temporary" situation indicating that you believe that they will change over to the positive enlighted side very soon.

Remember, when dealing with negative love ones, it is very important to concentrate on yourself, your goals and desires, and your behavior rather than on theirs.  DO NOT ALLOW them to take you down a path that does not represent who you are or who you want to become.  Instead, continue to be positive and to take steps in the right direction every day towards your goals and they will eventually see that you are changing or have changed for the better.  What you will  notice is that they will eventually stop the negative talk around you because misery loves company.  So when they notice that their comments are no longer getting a negative response from you, they will choose to change or move on to someone else who will feed into or support their negativity.  

Remember, it's always important to invite them to change and come over to the side of inner peace and happiness as often as you can.    

Your success coach,

Dr. Amy