Do you surround yourself with people who give you strength, inspire you, and motivate you to want to do better? Unfortunately, so many people have as their “core group” individuals (or so called friends and associates) who are negative towards them, resentful and extremely critical of them. It’s almost like having your ‘enemies’ at your side throughout the day. Let me define “core group” for you. These are the people that we speak to or hang around with on a regular basis. These are the people who we allow to give us their opinions on almost any and everything in our lives. When it comes to choosing who you let into your “core group” you had better make sure that there is no envy, distrust, bitterness, or latent agenda there. In other words, make sure that person LIKES you as much as they say they LOVE you. I always say that it is a big advantage to be cognizant of the fact that a person does not “like you” or care for you because you can make it a point to stay out of their path. However, when we open up the floodgate and allow individuals into our core circle, we then give them access to our personal feelings - our minds, our hearts, our thoughts - and they in turn, feel that they can say whatever they please ‘to us’ about us. . … and this is not always a good thing.
Someone who should not be in your inner core circle is a person who:
(1) Is negative, condescending, talks about others, and don’t have plans for their future.
(2) Brings back negative gossip to you – on a regular basis- about what others are saying about you.
(3) Demonstrates time after time that there is a hint of jealously in the relationship.
(4) Always speaks about limiting thoughts and how things will probably never change.
(5) Tells you what is not possible for you based on their experiences and that of other people they know.
What you have to do instead is to surround yourself with people who give you strength and inspire you! Surround yourself with individuals who have “converted” their way of thinking to a positive mindset. Remember, we should only be focusing on the positive aspects of life. You should only focus on what you actually want to happen in your life, instead of what you do not want. So I guess it’s now time to ask you today’s big question, and it is this: Who are your top 4 – 5 closest friends, associates, coaches, and/or advisers that are active in your life? In other words, who has access to your ear and your heart ….. whose words, thoughts, ideals, and concepts are you allowing to penetrate your mind? Who are you aligned with mentally? Oh, I bet you never thought about that one. But hear me when I say this: The people that you allow into your personal circle – friends, family, associates - are the ones who will have a major impact on your future success. They are the people who will either bring you down, or build you up. So which do you have? Do you have negative minded people in your circle that focuses on your weaknesses rather than on what you have become? Are there individuals in your core circle who always seem to find a way to remind you - on a daily bases- of your shortcomings? Or, do you have people who inspire and motivate you to keep going in spite of the challenges? I always say, "You are only as strong as the weakest link in your chain"(your core circle that is). Accordingly, it is crucial to your future success path that you align yourself with positive minded people and only allow into your “core circle” those individuals who like you as a person and are also on some sort of a journey to success themselves.
Take some time right now and form your core support circle. Identify 4 – 5 people who will inspire, support, and help you on your journey to success. Eliminate those people who are critical of you, who are negative thinkers, complainers, stuck in the past and refuse to upgrade their mindsets. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be friends with these types of people, however, I am advising you that you should not have them in your ear on a regular bases.
My Core Circle:
(1) _______________________________________________
(2) _______________________________________________
(3) _______________________________________________
(4) _______________________________________________
(5) _______________________________________________
To your success,
Dr. Amy
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